Loves and stratagems

kebuyo:

marlinspirkhall:

mothdogs:

The scene in The Search for Spock where Sarek is reading Kirk’s mind and Kirk says about Spock, so softly and brokenly, “We were separated. He couldn’t touch me” is the most heartbreaking and gayest shit I’ve ever, ever seen

Literally

Plus, Sarek has just melded with him and seen The Greatest Hits Of Spirk so he’s like “oh my god, they were roommates” and hurriedly backs off like “I apologise, Kirk, I did not know”

give me a moment 😭

Sarek after mind-melding with Kirk:

ALT

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Let’s talk about conventions around Cardassian surnames. I’ve started pondering the question of whether Cardassians take their spouse’s surname (perhaps more specifically, whether women take their husband’s surname). There is nothing in alpha canon that gives us any clues (I looked through Memory Alpha’s ‘Cardassians’ category, and the only case we have of people with the same surname are fathers and their children - Kotan and Rugal Pa’Dar, Tekeny and Iliana Ghemor, etc.) On Memory Alpha there are a few examples of wives whose last names are listed as the same  as their husbands (Athra Dukat, Niala Damar), but I don’t know if that actually means that they’re called that in the books, or if the Memory Beta editors are making the assumption that Skrain Dukat’s wife Athra must be Athra Dukat. While I’m not sure what my opinion actually is, I feel that automatically assuming that their system is just like the dominant one in our society is…  bit dull? 

Cross-culturally, the concept of taking your husband’s surname is not that common. Even in Northern Europe (because in Southern Europe it’s still not widely done), it is quite a new thing. Still in the late 18th century in Europe, women would still be known by the surname they were born with, or would swap between their family surname and their husband’s surname depending on the situation. Among the Etruscans of ancient Italy (where women had three names - praenomen (forename) nomen (family name) and cognomen (personal name, but sometimes associated with family branches) - unlike among the Romans, where women only had a nomen and sometimes cognomen), women kept their own family’s nomen even after getting married. The children would take the father’s nomen. This seems to be a more common model, occurring in much of modern Asia (though interestingly enough not in Japan). I believe that in some cultures (though I’m not sure where), newly-weds will take an entirely new surname, both changing to that name. 

All this comes down to how marriage is conceptualised. Do Cardassians see the woman as ‘leaving’ the family she was born into and instead becoming part of the husband’s family? Does she ‘connect’ both families? Or is she half-outside her husband’s family - a conduit of the family but not quite part of it? I don’t think it’s a given that all Cardassians do the same thing - there might be class differences, where the upper classes do one thing and others do another. Maybe there are different types of marriage of different degrees (thinking something like the Roman concepts of marriage cum manu and sine manu, where legal control either passes to the husband or stays with the father (but maybe less ‘women don’t have rights’-y) or maybe like morganatic marriages). Perhaps surnames can sometimes be matrilineal, in some social contexts or some geographical areas. 

This was a very rambly way of saying - I’d love to hear people’s thoughts and personal headcanons on Cardassian marriage and Cardassian name conventions. 

kseniayahz:

“Good night, Elim”

“Sweet dreams, my dear”

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jonathanarcher:

jonathanarcher:

jonathanarcher:

In my heart quark/grilka was endgame however I also do think it would be amusing if quark moves to cardassia post canon to be natima langs whatever the opposite of a trophy husband is

Natima: this is my husband quark do not talk to him for longer than 10 minutes or he will try to involve you in the pyramid scheme and if any of you are rude to him I’ll exile you from cardassia ❤️

Quark: don’t listen to her how would you like to be your own boss

Oh my god I forgot that Quarks brother is the Grand Nagus. Quark is the most connected man on two planets and he uses it exclusively to be a sugar baby and a menace respectively

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pencilscratchins:

nog and jake should have gotten married for many reasons, least of which being their wedding has many hilarious implications re: sisko & his new… in laws? [ID in next reblog] (twitter)